February 10, 1993 | by John Piper | Topic: Parenting<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will obey your instructions and do what I know you expect of me, even when it is not mentioned. I will not force you into repeated reminders, which I sometimes call nagging.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will not grumble or complain when I do my chores, but remember what a great thing it is to have a family and a home and clothes and food and running water and electric light and central heating in a world where millions of teenagers have none of these.<\/p>\n
Resolved: When I think your demands are unfair, I will move to do them first, and after showing an obedient attitude, I will ask if we can talk. Then I will explain my side and try to understand yours.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will not stonewall you and give you the silent treatment, which I dislike when my friends do it to me. If I am depressed and want to be left alone, I will say, \u201cI\u2019m sorry, I don\u2019t feel like talking right now. Can we talk later? I\u2019m not mad; I just need to be alone.\u201d<\/p>\n
Resolved: When I do something wrong and let you down, I will apologize sincerely with words that you can hear. Something like: \u201cMom, I\u2019m sorry, I didn\u2019t pick up the pile of clothes.\u201d<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will call you by affectionate family titles, like \u201cmommy\u201d or \u201cdaddy\u201d, or \u201cmom\u201d or \u201cdad\u201d. And I won\u2019t let other kids pressure me into calling you nothing, or calling you something disrespectful as though true affection were embarrassing or childish.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will say thank you again and again for the ordinary things you do for me. I will not take them for granted as though you were my slave.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will talk about my feelings. Both the positive ones (like happiness, pity, excitement, sympathy, etc.) and the negative ones (like anger, fear, grief, loneliness, discouragement, etc.). I will remember that unshared feelings lead to estrangement and coldness and even more loneliness and discouragement.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will laugh with the family and not at the family. I will especially laugh when my little brother or sister tells a simple joke with expectant excitement.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will give two compliments for every criticism. And every criticism will aim to help someone improve, not just belittle or cut down.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will enter into family devotions and treat Bible reading and prayer with respect and do my part to help others in the family enjoy them. When I don\u2019t feel spiritually strong, I will pray about this as a personal need rather than pouring it on others as a glass of cold water. I will remember that confessed weakness knits hearts together.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will not return evil for evil or try to justify my meanness because somebody treated me meanly first.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will read my Bible and pray every day even if is only a verse and a brief call for help. I know that teens cannot live by bread alone, but by every word that comes out of the mouth of God.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will come home at the time we agreed on. If something happens to stop me, I will call and explain and ask your guidance.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will greet our guests with courtesy and respect and try to make them glad they came.<\/p>\n
Resolved: I will always tell the truth so that you can trust me and give me more and more freedom as I get older.<\/p>\n
Pastor John<\/p>\n
By John Piper. \u00c2\u00a9 Desiring God. Website: desiringGod.org<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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